For those who read, Part 1, sorry to leave you hanging (pun intended) last week.
This time, yes, I am talking about penis size. For men, it is often all about size, thus the term “penis envy”. But for women, the penis is perceived as just another masculine feature, like muscles, a flat stomach, or being tall. If women do have a focus on a particular physical part of the male anatomy, it’s most likely to be the buttocks, a subject I will save for another time. (See, for reference: A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World’s Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam; Putnum Group, 2011)
The availability of abundant, free Internet sexual content portraying men with huge penises as “the norm” has created a bit of a one-eyed monster, if you will. I have now seen a significant number of female patients who have completely unrealistic expectations for the penis size of their partners, not to mention, a skewed idea of how long their partners should be intimate without breaking a sweat or ejaculating. Some women have actually done the unspeakable, telling their partners, ”Your penis is so small!” Ouch! Talk about hitting below the belt.
Pornography, which is the portrayal of sexual subject matter for the purpose of sexual arousal, has created such common, unrealistic expectations (beyond penis size) that it has actually spawned an excellent TED talk, as well as a “realistic porn” site: Make Love Not Porn.
So, if you imagine, even for one minute, that a Genoa-salami-sized-penis is “normal,” here are the actual facts: The range of erect penis length for most men is 5 – 6.5 inches. The circumference of the average man’s erect penis is 4 – 5 inches. This means the corresponding erect penis diameter is 1.27 – 1.6 inches. This size information has been confirmed multiple times among different ethnic groups and populations with only minimal variation (www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/bib-penis.html or https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_penis_size). While these sizes “are only numbers,” and as they say “a picture is worth a thousand words,” there is actually some good pictorial information that can provide meaningful visual perspective.
So, while fantasy is fine and actually very healthy, the reality of having sex with Jonah Falcon, the man with the world’s largest penis (a giant, freakish, colossus of 13.5 inches in length), could be completely terrifying! The takeaway here, Ladies and Gentlemen, is to be careful what you wish for, because you might not know what to do with it should you get it.
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